As a Christian mother, I’ve always admonished my kids to serve the Lord Jesus Christ anytime and anywhere. In general, young ladies tend to feel liberated when they leave their parents for college because “now all is permitted”. In reality, nothing can shelter or protect them. They’re vulnerable as they’re influenced by the new environment found on campus. Christian women should always hold on to the teachings received in church, home, and Bible study groups. They should be the salt of the earth and light of the world, that is, ambassadors of Christ, even if they don’t have to openly speak about the Word; their lives can be a message to the lost. The college mentality says: “As a student, you should have a boyfriend otherwise you’re regarded as abnormal and become the laughing stock of your friends.”
It’s important to remember the Word of God in 1 Corinthians 10:23 :”I have the right to do anything, you say-but not everything is beneficial. I have the right to do anything-but not everything is constructive.” Craving to have a boyfriend in university is a frequent currency, yet as Christians, we should not follow the trend of this world, but only do what is beneficial to our relationship with God. The Bible should be the only model for young women to follow. Think about it, the Bible doesn’t mention one bit that it’s compulsory to have boyfriends, instead it says that “we shall be holy as God is holy”.
In the midst of these challenges, Christian ladies should stand firm in their faith so as to resist in difficult days. Why do young people seek to be intimate with people of the opposite sex at all cost? It’s because the ancient serpent called Satan knows very well that once young people have been detached from parental guidance, they become weaker and easily exposed to all kinds of attacks. “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful”- Joshua 1:8. The word “prosperous” in Hebrew means “to have discernment”, that is, in all your decisions, you need to be wise to think thoroughly before acting. Usually, to erase loneliness, single sisters begin to engage in long and vain conversations with men in order to fill their void. They would rather spend time talking to men than Jesus Himself. Unbeknownst to them, this slowly leads to the destruction of their commitment to the Lord. They forget that they were chosen and predestined before the creation of the world by God. Satan blinds them to change the glory of God into shame. What happens if women of God are carried away by relationships with the opposite sex without it being God’s will? There are many consequences such as defilement of God’s temple, open door for the devil, damage of your future marriage’s destiny, sexual dysfunction, etc.
Amos 3:3 says: “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” This is inevitable because two people of the opposite sex can’t be so close to each other for a long time without going to the next level in their relationship. Sex is a sacred gift that God established for married couples and only for married couples. Thus, whatever transpires outside of marriage is called fornication or adultery. Sex outside of these boundaries is not a blessing to you but a curse. For example, if you eat an unripe mango, you’ll notice that it’s sour not sweet as it should normally be when ripe. The sourness will affect your teeth and cause digestive problems. The same thing goes with sex: Any sex outside of marriage is shameful and brings only bad outcomes.That’s why SSU find your comfort in the Lord who knows all your needs. After creation, God said: “Let’s make man in our own image, in our likeness”-Genesis 1:26. And after that, He also said: “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him”-Genesis 2:18. This signifies that marriage is a gift from God to man (for those destined for it). Surrender yourself in the hands of God, for He knows how to direct and enlighten you. If you have the gift of marriage, rest assured that God who is omnipotent, regardless of where you are on this planet, will orchestrate your meeting with your future husband at the appropriate time. Your husband will be a pastor, father, son, and spouse for you. Be patient and persevere in prayer! The one God has destined as your spouse will not come with demands, he will be gentle, respectful, and full of compassion. You’ll know him by his fruits, but be careful, many are circulating as wolves in sheep’s clothing, so be full of discernment because the Lord deceives no one. Find your direction and consolation in the Lord who knows your needs: “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God”-1 Corinthians 10:31. Be strong in the faith and let no one steal what God has planted in you, and pray without ceasing because YOU are the chosen ones of the Most High!