image: Single Sisters in University
Interview Topic: Preparing for Marriage
Sisters! Welcome back Elodie. Today, we’re talking about marriage as we enter the month of L.O.V.E. Find out how she gets ready to becoming a future wife.
This question is not oftentimes asked to a lot of people, but we wanted to start you off with it: “Why do you want to get married?”
I think God has put a specific emptiness, in those of us destined for marriage, that can only be filled by the opposite sex, not friends or family. I’m not talking about the emptiness where you can’t survive without a man but this particular emptiness about wanting to be in a relationship with the opposite sex. I also want to fulfill the Word of God in Genesis 2:18 that says: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” and in Genesis 1:28 that says: “We need to be fruitful and multiply.”
Marriage takes a lot of work as they say, how are you preparing spiritually?
I used to feel very unhappy, incomplete, and unsatisfied; then God made me pass through a situation that drastically changed me and led me to find fulfillment in Him. Anyone willing to get married must first make sure he/she has a solid foundation/relationship with God, because marriage won’t make you content, only God can. Dr. Myles Munroe gives the example of two glasses to symbolize the spouses in marriage. He says that when we go into marriage our glass should be full (meaning fulfillment in God) so that the marriage will be even more enjoyable. However, if we go with a half-filled glass, then each partner will always seek fulfilment from the other and as a result that will cause trouble because when one glass is filled by the other, the latter is now empty.That’s why I’ve learnt to be satisfied in God.
How about physical and emotional preparations?
Physically, I’ve been taking care of my hair, as black women, we know how important it is depending if you marry someone outside our race (the hubby might not always understand the mechanism that goes on up there, lol). I additionally make sure I always look presentable, eat well, and take care of my dry dry dry skin by drinking lots of water! Emotionally, I used to be a moody person and I knew that this had to change. I listened to Joyce Meyer one time who advised that people should constantly find anything to be thankful for no matter the situation, so that’s what I’ve been doing.
Are there any other areas of preparations?
Cooking: I definitely am bettering myself in this area. Personally, I’m not talkative, so I’m working on being more open and welcoming.
What would you say is your greatest obstacle to being ready for marriage?
Hmm… I can’t think of anything major.
This thus leads us to our next question: “What makes you think you’re ready to take on the responsibility of a wife?”
I used to think that I was ready for marriage until I heard Dr. Myles Munroe’s and Jimmy Evans’ sermons on marriage. I realized that I was so far away from being ready! Now, I can confidently say that I’m ready because through these sermons, I have applied all the biblical and social directives when it comes to marriage. Now, I’ve understood that singleness is a beautiful season to improve myself.
Any advice to SSU?
Please, please, check out Dr. Myles Munroe’s sermon titled “Single but not alone” and Jimmy Evans’s marriage sermon series. These sermons will help and guide you into achieving a 100% success in marriage; yes I said it 100%! God can definitely do it! Also ladies, don’t think that singleness is a bad thing; it’s a beautiful period that allows you to better yourself. Embrace your singleness and most importantly, use it to get closer and fill complete in God. Your husband will not bring you fulfilment or contentment, but only God will. Our God is faithful to lead you to the husband He designed for you!