image: Single Sisters in University
Interview Topic: Balancing Christian Life, School, and Motherhood
Sisters! Meet Shakema, a first-year online Global Logistics & Business Management student. Shake, as she likes to be called, is a mother to a handsome toddler; on her spare time, she enjoys traveling, socializing, and networking. In this interview, Shake, an SSU mom, shares her experience on balancing Christian life, motherhood, and studies.
What is a typical day for you like?
A typical day will be waking up, getting my son ready for preschool, making breakfast (something quick and fast), and while he’s eating, I’m dressing up then cleaning up. After all that’s done, I get my son on his school van. Depending on which day of the week, I have created different activities; for instance, Mondays, I have appointments, do homework, and Wednesdays, I volunteer at various organizations. After the school van drops my son in late afternoon, I clean him up, give him a snack, and prepare dinner. In the middle of that, I’m job hunting online or putting on preschool Youtube videos for my son to watch. Lastly, we have dinner and we head to bed.
There’s a saying that the word ‘mom’ stands for “master of multitasking”, how do you live up to that?
I don’t schedule my activities; I typically just randomly do them. I’m not fond of timing myself, that way, it gives me a flow. I usually write out my tasks on paper, read them, then just randomly start doing them. So for example, if I have to set up a meeting with someone, I can actually divert from my activities instead of being thrown off by a scheduled agenda.
What role does God play in the midst of your busy schedule?
I always thank God every morning for waking up; even if I know I’m struggling, I have to thank the Lord and go about my day. In the midst of my busyness, I try to help others that’s a way of blessing someone when God has blessed me: it makes me feel good. I know that God is with me, so whether I’m networking or socializing, He uses me as a tool to help someone with whatever resources I have.
What is your current greatest challenge and how are you addressing it?
My greatest challenge is raising a 3-year-old son. Although I have school and other activities, but his health is my first concern. The way I address this challenge is again by utilizing different resources helpful to me. Learning to do different things with him. At times, I tend to treat him as a young person rather than a baby, so I think that’s the challenge right there, I have to be able to balance patience with him.
What brings a smile on your face at the end of the day?
As much as it makes me go crazy, I smile when my son eats and makes a mess all over his face. I just shake my head and start laughing, and he, on the other hand, doesn’t understand what’s going on and he’ll just start laughing with me. Though it’s simple and weird but I just find myself laughing. Also, the fact that I have my son’s company also brings a smile, because it’s just the two of us.
Any words of encouragement to our SSU moms?
I will tell them two words: patience and joy. These are the two biggest things they’ll need. In the midst of all that’s going on plus having kids, it definitely takes patience. So, SSU moms need mentors to help them, whether it’s at church or an organization/group they feel comfortable with. Joy is very important; I’m not talking about happiness because it just depends on a situation. Joy is that appreciative feeling which even in the middle of busyness, you’re able to smile. When sometimes you don’t know what to do, joy is needed to be grateful; something just as little as my son making me laugh when he eats, that’s important.