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Let’s see your roommate is probably one of those: Unclean, disrespectful, aggravating, loud, and irresponsible. She surely brings in lots of friends in your shared apartment/room, has an annoying pet, and at times lets her boyfriend sleeps over for days. The girl just lacks manners or care towards others; she thinks the world revolves around her, herself, and her needs. Despite the number of times you’ve raised your concerns to her or cleaned up after her mess, she deepens in her insolence. There are moments when you try to ignore her behavior but you just can’t get pass it: Enough is enough! Well, let me just tell you ladies, been there and done that! Circumstances such as these are more frequent among born-again Christians because we’re not of this world. Remember what Christ said in John 15:18-19: “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” This means that if you were of the world, it would be easier for you to roll with your roommate as you have the same interests. However, this isn’t the case, that’s why there’s tension in your relationship.
In order to serve God effectively, it must be done with a pure conscience (Hebr 9:14) and a heart at peace (John 20:21). As long as your roommate’s character always disturbs you, you won’t be able to fervently work for the Lord because she’s always on your mind. Your roommate is not going to change her ways anytime soon but you can. You have to adopt new ways for the sake of fellowshipping with the Lord with a pure conscience and a peaceful heart.
The most important thing is to understand that as Christians we are no longer to wrestle with flesh and blood like in the old testament; today, our battle is with principalities, dominations, and spirits, as Ephesians 6:12 says “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” If you accept this truth, then you should no longer get angry, engage in disputes, or hold grudges against any human being because you understand that the real enemies are the demons using your roommate, friend, or family member to attack you.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”-Philippians 4:6-7. The way to attain peace in your mind and heart is to pray: Constantly pray (never forget to be always be thankful no matter what) that the Holy Spirit stills your mind and heart in relations to your roommate’s situation. Pray that the power of Christ rests upon you in your moments of weakness. To have a pure conscience, you have to act blamelessly before the Lord vis-à-vis of your roommate. If that entails cleaning up after her mess, you do it without complaining (Philippians 2:14-15); if you choose not to, then be at peace without murmuring or gossiping about it. If that entails minimizing talks with your roommate to avoid quarrels, then do so (Rom 12:18). Always be mindful that you are an ambassador of Christ in your apartment/room; therefore do everything for the glory of God, respect and love your roommate. Let your light shine before her that she’ll see your goods deeds and be led to Christ (Matt 5:16). Never forget to pray for her, as hard as it might be, do it because that’s God’s will for us (Matt 5:44).
I understand that the above advices are easier said than done but I also know that much prayer produces much power. Do not let any human being or situation come between your relationship with God. Stay blessed ladies!