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The danger about being obsessed with the idea of getting married is that the devil listens to our desperate plea to the Lord and begins to plan a way to make us fall. It’s no wonder because 1 Peter 5:8 even says that “the enemy is like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour”; that’s why it’s crucial to be constantly sober and vigilant. One of the most common devil’s tactics during our time of desperation is to send wolves in sheep’s clothing. What do I mean by this term? The enemy knows that if he sends an all-tattooed man with piercings, we, Christian ladies, will immediately spot that it’s not the will of the Father. However, if he sends men who look and ‘talk’ Christian, i.e. wolves in sheep’s clothing, we will be more than likely to fall for them. I mean the same rule applies when trying to kill rats for example, what do we do? We place baits at the corner of a wall to lure them and when rats are drawn to the bait station, there you go, they are caught and headed for destruction! And the same result goes for us Christian ladies if we don’t have discernment to spot wolves dressed in sheep’s clothing.
How does one spot these men?
The key to spotting the wolves in sheep’s clothing is to be sober and vigilant, and this only occurs when we have regular communion with God. I’m not talking about serving God in ministries but in having quality Bible, prayer, worship, fasting, and obedient life. Psalm 25:14 (NIV) says “the Lord confides in those who fear Him; He makes His covenant known to them.” The Father will never reveal His mind to those who don’t seek Him earnestly and consequently, He won’t give wisdom to rebellious children in order to spot a deceiving man. Personally, I’ve had countless occurrences with men that were interested in dating or marrying me. But for the grace of God, my flesh was ready to take the next steps with these men. Till this day, I constantly thank God for His wonderful guidance which prevented grave mistakes. The sad thing is that the majority of our Christian sisters due to lust, pressure, and lack of correct understanding of the Word fall into the devil’s trap, and this is exactly what 2 Timothy 3:6-7 revealed:
“[Men] having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.”
Another way to spot these wolves is to discipline ourselves to follow God’s leadership and NEVER our emotions when a man comes our way. Appearances are so deceiving! When I recently had a marriage proposal, I was impressed by the way this man asked for my hand. He actually requested his parents to talk with mine in regards to this issue. I felt honored because he did it in a respectful manner that involved the awareness of elders. Nonetheless, I couldn’t just go by my feelings but rather consult my Heavenly Father who searches the heart and tests the mind (Jeremiah 17:10).
Our Lord Jesus gives a way to also recognize these types of men, “you will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?” Matthew 7:16. This means that we have to observe these men’s fruit, this is not synonym of ministries or miracle works. Judas Iscariot cast out demons yet still sold himself to the devil. The fruits are listed in Galatians 5:22-23: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Is he a man who accepts suffering for Christ’s sake without complaining? (i.e. joy, patience). Is he a man who seeks to be humble before God and not men? (i.e. self-control).
So, we need to be sober and vigilant ladies in order to resist when temptations come. Let’s not give the devil a foothold by being desperate or obsessed by a marriage desire. Most importantly, we need to have a healthy relationship with the Lord and when we’re led by the Holy Spirit and not our flesh, the Father will lead us on the right path towards glory. Stay blessed ladies.