I‘m sure that you have certainly come across annoying classmates during your university journey, or you will meet them soon. I’m talking about those classmates whose attitude gets others sick but themselves. You have surely complained, murmured, and gossiped about their behaviors with other friends. Every time you enter the classroom and see them, you know it’s not going to be good. Nonetheless, we need to remember that we are children of God wherever we are, therefore we need to be at peace even among these annoying classmates. Jesus said this: “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” John 14:27. So, let’s meet these different types of annoying classmates and see how we can deal with them:
- The smart and arrogant classmate: Now, this is the student who gets the good grades; he walks confident; the professor likes him. Problem: He’s arrogant! Way too proud of his achievements! He makes others look dumb when he talks.Solution: Fervently pray for the Holy Spirit to touch your heart before you head to your class. Pray for peace. Philippians 4:6-7 “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” If you have the habit of talking to this classmate, limit and/or diminish your conversations for your own sake, so you can be at peace (Romans 12:18).
- The Diva: This is the girl who wears all the latest fashion and accessories; she got money; she’s exceptionally clean and neat. Problem: She looks down on those who are not fashionably inclined or as financially comfortable as she is.Solution: If you interact with this classmate, limit and/or diminish your conversations for your own sake; otherwise, this is someone that will either break your spirit or carry you along on her path. If you don’t interact with her, then pray for the Holy Spirit’s touch and ignore her.
- The student with the obnoxious questions and weird mannerisms: Problem:This student always manages to ask the most obnoxious and ridiculous questions. You wonder if he does it on purpose or not. Every lecture he always finds something annoying to say. He sometimes couples his attitude with unusual mannerisms such as sneezing out loud, talking to himself, or laughing weirdly. Solution: Be patient with this classmate because you don’t actually know if he has a mental or just a spirit of nuisance.1 Corinthians 13:4 says “Love is patient” and Colossians 4:5 “Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside.”
- The rude and mean: Problem: This classmate is impolite in speech and actions. He cusses at people, complains about anything and everything, and fearlessly gives others his piece of mind. The following words lack in his vocabulary: “Good morning/hello”, “Please”, “I’m sorry”, and “Thank you.” He doesn’t care about anyone but himself. Solution: Stay away from him. Psalm 1:1 “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful.” However, if God allows you to work with him in the same group project, for instance, pray for the Holy Spirit’s touch. Exercise patience with him and be slow to talk. If he becomes really unbearable, you can always talk to the prof.
- The way-too-quiet student: This student is uncommonly quiet. He says few to no words. You really can’t tell what’s going on in his mind. Problem: He can end up being a source of frustration if you work with him in a group. He can completely be ignorant of his surrounding, and easily become the gossip talk between you and your friends. Solution: Again, this is another one to be patient with as you don’t know the cause of his strange quietness. If you get to interact with him, respect his behavior and don’t force him to become talkative. Don’t let him be your reason for sinning, gently explain to your friends that it’s important to act with understanding rather than gossip.
The essential thing to do in regards to the above classmate attitudes is to walk blameless before God; these classmates should not be your excuse for stumbling. You need to take it seriously by always asking the Holy Spirit to transform you. With your upright character, you will point your surrounding to God. “Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day He visits us” 1 Peter 2:12.