“The Jealous Classmates”
Sisters! Meet Lee, a senior in college currently majoring in Language studies. It’s a blessing and joy when we perform well academically; the sad thing, however, is at times, our classmates may not share the same feelings. How do we deal with jealous classmates? Let’s hear it from Lee’s experience.
Your great performances have made some people uncomfortable in your class, how did you spot that at first?
The most obvious thing was the mood change. When I would converse with some of my classmates concerning homework or an upcoming test, they seemed moody and talked down on me. At times, they made unnecessary comments such as: “If you’re so smart, why are you asking me this question?”, or “You seem to be good at everything, what do you not know?” or “Do you want to show that you’re better than all of us?” Consequently, that’s how I deduced that my classmates weren’t too happy with my performance.
How did they get to know about your performance? Aren’t your professors discreet when it comes to students’ grades?
The majority of professors are very discreet in that regard, however, once in a while, you can get a professor who’s not private about revealing the identity of the student who got the best grade. Other times, between friends, we inquire about each other’s grades.
Have you had close friends being jealous about your success? If yes, how did you take that?
Yes, unfortunately! It was like a betrayal, a stab in the back. In the beginning, jealousy arose just from the classmates that I wasn’t friends with. When my close friends began to feel jealous, that was very hard for me to take. I really felt left alone to fend for myself.
What’s been your reaction in dealing with jealous classmates?
I’ve been praying against the spiritual forces using my classmates and friends. I also ask the Lord for strength and courage each day because it’s not easy to deal with them. It seems as if every word I utter they find a way to condemn me because of my performance. I have been trying to also disregard their comments by not taking them at heart.
Do you think ignoring such classmates is the solution?
Yes, very much so. When we understand that these classmates are just being used by the devil’s agents then there’s no point in paying attention to their remarks or attitude. If you don’t ignore them, you get discouraged and that affects your academics. So, it’s better to focus on the Lord and your performance.
How do you find the courage to continue performing well?
Prayer helps a lot. I pray before going to class, I pray at school. I pray, pray, and pray. Knowing that the Lord is on my side makes a great difference because it reassures me that I’m on the right path. I have never ever bragged about my results or wanted to discuss about my or other people’s grades. They’re the ones that always come up to me to inquire about my grades. Thus, I know that I have no reason to feel guilty about. But of course, there are times when I’m overwhelmed by their attitudes and would prefer to leave the class, I have learned to wait quietly before the Lord like Psalm 62:5 says.
Have you ever thought of helping these classmates to do better? Maybe it can change their perspective about you.
Whenever they ask for my assistance, I do help them. However, it hasn’t changed their perspective. They only think that this is a favor I owe them for being smart. At the end of the day, I’m not trying to earn anyone’s approval or love (I used to do that at the start); I help if I can.
Any words of advice for SSU?
Jealous classmates can rise from our proud attitude or just people’s selfish behaviors; you have to ensure that your ways are blameless before the Father. You can’t fight your classmates with words, but in prayer. Pray against the demonic forces using your classmates to attack you. Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you (James 4:7). Let your joy depend on the Lord and not on men.