Preparing For Marriage Special Edition
As I was reflecting on today’s topic, I thought about advising ladies-in-waiting to practice purity for marriage’s sake, then I realized that as Christian women, we don’t take on pure habits just because we want to become good wives. Undoubtedly, purity will benefit us in our future marriage, but the first point I want to make is that we should seek to discipline ourselves in order to honor God and flee from sin.
So what is purity? The Free Dictionary defines it as “freedom from spiritual or moral defilement; innocence or chastity.” In Christian terms, we can assimilate it to ‘walking in a holy or blameless manner before the Lord.” Romans 12:2 says “I appeal to you therefore, brothers by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” We’re used to hear the term ‘praise and worship’ many times in churches, this verse exactly shows us that true worship is not done in singing but in offering ourselves to the Father as living sacrifices. In the Old Testament, every animal sacrifice had to be without blemish and cut in pieces:
“If his offering is a burnt offering from the herd, he shall offer a male without blemish. He shall bring it to the entrance of the tent of meeting, that he may be accepted before the Lord…Then he shall flay the burnt offering and cut it into pieces, and the sons of Aaron the priest shall put fire on the altar and arrange wood on the fire. And Aaron’s sons the priests shall arrange the pieces, the head, and the fat, on the wood that is on the fire on the altar; but its entrails and its legs he shall wash with water. And the priest shall burn all of it on the altar, as a burnt offering, a food offering with a pleasing aroma to the Lord—Leviticus 1:3, 6-9
Animals without blemish were offered as a way of giving something worthy to the Lord, while they were cut into pieces as a mark of deliberately presenting each and every part as offering to the Lord. Now in the new covenant, we should present each part of our bodies to the Lord without blemish, i.e. live in purity. Here are few examples of ways we can do that:
- The Mind: everything we meditate in our mind must be pure, in the words of apostle Paul, “And now, dear brothers, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise” Philippians 4:8.
- The Eyes: we always direct our eyes to watch movies, shows, or things that are not appropriate. If we want to become pure women, we need to restrict what we see. Let’s ask ourselves this question: If the Lord Jesus was physically sitting right beside us, would He approve of what we’re watching?
- The Heart/Mouth: Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Before we begin taming our tongue, we must first start by cleaning our heart and this is done by submitting to the Word of God, “Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You,” Psalm 119:11.
- The Belly: Now this is a part of the body that we usually don’t think of when it comes to purity, yet the Bible says that those who walk against the cross of Christ have turned their belly into their god (Phil 3:19). When we are always thinking about food, make it a big deal when hungry, or become unhappy when we’ve not eaten to our satisfaction, that’s a sign that we are slave to our belly.
- The Ears: We like to listen to dirty/sexual topics on talk shows, gossip tales, or programs where profane words are used. Beware, our ears should be pure for the Lord.
These were just some few examples where we need to be careful. When we train ourselves to be pure by the power of the Holy Spirit, the Father is glorified and like mentioned earlier, we are able to stay away from sin. Consequently, our future godly husband will admire and respect us because he sees our spiritual discipline; this is what reinforces trust in marriage. When we offer ourselves as holy, pure living sacrifices to the Lord, we are blessed and so will our future marriage.