Preparing For Marriage Special Edition
“Those who are most ready for marriage are the ones who need it less”
– Francis Chan
By this statement, Pastor Francis Chan meant that the people who are most adequately prepared for marriage are those who focus on loving Jesus instead of longing for marriage. These individuals haven’t ignored their need for marriage rather they have found contentment in their relationship with Christ. Many ladies preoccupied with getting married are usually motivated by several factors such as ‘biological clock’ ticking, societal pressures, competition, need to get out of parents’ house, and what not. As a result it becomes a race against time. When they eventually get married, they later on realize how greatly challenging it is to raise a home and that they were never properly equipped to handle various situations. There’re many wives who have learnt their lessons the hard way. It’s no wonder Proverbs 14:1 says “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Here the author doesn’t indicate that the wise woman builds her house instead it is the wisest of them all. Hence, marriage is not a petty institution that we should just rush into due to our motives; it takes preparation upon preparation during our single days through numerous trials and suffering. And until the Lord certifies us ready, we shouldn’t get ahead of Him.
Marriage is not the most important thing in this life despite how others may portray it, our relationship with the Lord Jesus is. If we haven’t found our delight and contentment in Christ, we will definitely not find it in a mere human being (i.e. our future husband). That’s why as singles, we should seize every situation, through joys and pains, to become more like Christ.
And if you call on the Father, who without partiality judges according to each one’s work, conduct yourselves throughout the time of your stay here in fear-1 Peter 1:17
It’s not an easy process but we thank God that we can rely on the Holy Spirit’s power. The holier we become in our ways, the more prepared we become for marriage. How? Because the wisdom spoken in Proverbs 14:1 can only be attained by the fear of the Lord, a.k.a. submission to the Word of God (Proverbs 1:7). Our Heavenly Father isn’t blind or unaware of our need for marriage even though it may seem like it. If He hasn’t allowed us to meet our partner yet, it is because He is still working on us. So, let’s take advantage of our single days to continue to conform our ways to the Father’s. We can never stop learning to better ourselves.