Rationalizing Fornication


I attended a bridal shower few years ago of a lady from church; the event room was packed with many other sisters in Christ who had come to show their support to the upcoming bride. One of the closest friends of the future bride had created a nice diaporama that displayed the early pictures of the couple to their present time. There were photos of the couple’s promenades, celebrations, playtimes, and kissing moments too! I remember when I saw the first kissing photo, I gasped! I was so shocked, I looked around me and to my surprise, I heard a unison “awwwww” from all the ladies… “Wait,” I thought to myself, “are we all looking at the same photo or not?” I didn’t even need to be a prophet to guess that the soon-to-be-married sister in Christ was already having sex outside of marriage. Call me old-fashion if you like, but I think as daughters of the Most High God, there’s a certain way we must live that’s different from the world. Otherwise, what is the point of going to church every sunday if we are not willing to be holy as God is holy? (1 Peter 1:16). I have heard many say “we’re grown-ups and this is the way to act,” “it’s ok, I mean as long as I am not getting pregnant,” “everybody is doing it, so what?” “sexual purity is a thing of the past, now times have changed.” With comments like these, we have started rationalizing fornication (sex outside marriage) in the church. We are quicker to condemn homosexuals than our female friends who fornicate with the opposite sex. We enter into relationships with men on campus or at church and get intimate with them because that’s the trend. Sisters!!!

The purpose of SSU has never been to raise women who’ll swear by celibacy, instead our vision has always been to raise a generation of Spirit-filled ladies that say no to ungodliness and worldly passions, and live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives throughout their university journey – Titus 2:12. Countless articles have been written on the sin of fornication and its negative consequences that I don’t even need to start embarking on that journey. The only thing I will say in this regard is how much do we value our relationship with God to rupture it with the sin of fornication? Sin is what broke the fellowship between God and man and brought upon many curses on the earth. Do we call ourselves Christians just because it’s a title? Or is it really a way of life? No wonder the name of the Lord is blasphemed when unbelievers see us act in such worldly ways.

Well then, if you teach others, why don’t you teach yourself? You tell others not to steal, but do you steal? You say it is wrong to commit adultery, but do you commit adultery? You condemn idolatry, but do you use items stolen from pagan temples? You are so proud of knowing the law, but you dishonor God by breaking it. No wonder the Scriptures say, “The Gentiles blaspheme the name of God because of you.” Romans 2:21-24

My objective is not to condemn any sister in Christ who’s walking on the road of fornication, not at all! My prayer is that we, as Christian ladies, should wake up from our slumber and start calling sin a sin; not sugar-coat things, but rather realize that the devil has deceived us for way too long, it’s high time to put a stop, and return to a holy relationship with God. At the proper time, the Lord will bring the husband who’ll come to fulfill His promises for us; but until then, we need to be sober and vigilant to not give the devil a foothold. If we are honest with God, He’s always willing to take us back when we decide to repent from our evil ways. Stay blessed sisters!

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